Talking With Kids About Deviant Sexual Categories

When asked about a particularly deviant practice in his time, Jesus responded with this.

“Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’  So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”  (Matthew 19:4-6)

As sexual deviance increases and new terms emerge, a simple diagram can help students see God as the original architect of sexual roles. Marriage is the centerpiece of God’s design and it maintains two components: 1) male/female and 2) pleasure/procreation. If either of these are separated, we are operating outside of God’s layout.



So grab a napkin at Starbucks or McDonalds and sketch this design. Then, think through where the following would be placed. What quadrant would they located in?

Pornography – Notice the world of pretend. It may involve male/female and it includes pleasure, but there is no possible procreation. It’s a pretend world.

Masturbation – Similar

Emotional Porn – Same pretend world

Gay – This separates both male from female and separates pleasure from procreation

Lesbian – Similar


The overarching question that needs to be repeated on a continuing basis is,

“does God have authority over my sexuality?”



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