Parenting Adolescents: Past Regret? Future Fear?

No sooner does a parent get the poop off their hands- didn’t seem like baby wipes smelled much better- than they enter the world of parenting adolescents, ripe with past regret and future worries. Poop wasn’t that bad after all.

This parenting stage so often gains its energy from the cycle:

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Gregory Boyd draws our attention to something profound in his book Present Perfect:

 While the true God lives in the now, false gods always live in the past or future. Chasing them to find our worth and significance always takes us out of the present moment.

There’s an irony in parenting. Too much intensity (born out of regret & fear) threatens our ability to live in the moment, enjoying and experiencing God. And it’s this reality- God’s presence- which offers the greatest life-altering power to our kids.

Pause for a minute. What single regret or worry consistently robs you of God? What might happen if your kids caught wind of a change- one that transcends situations and gets supercharged by a glimpse of companionship with God?

“Come to me, all of you who are struggling and burdened, and I will give you rest.” (Matthew 11:28)

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