It wasn’t all that complicated. Just check one or the other right?
Then, a lot happened within a short time:
Now it’s complicated.
When gender was distinctively masculine and feminine, the rules of engagement were finely tuned and everyone operated within those boundaries and expectations. But take a 20-year-old girl and put her on a college campus today where she literally crosses paths with guys all day long:
- Is she to live expectantly, in awareness of her femininity?
- Should she dumb down her gender until casual becomes….really casual?
- With marriage and dating out of favor, should she defer vulnerability until she’s a senior?
- How should she navigate the two preferred girl options for self protection: 1) hook-up target or 2) man-hater?
What isn’t complicated is that you’re needed more than ever. Call it customized coaching:
I’m hearing from several girls, either outright or implied, the desire for focused female identity development, relational mentorship from older & wiser female “sexperts” if you will. Especially those females who’ve navigated the single/dating/engaged community in their mid-to-late 20s. (29-yr-old Audrey)
What is a Sexpert? Are they charged with staying up to date on Facebook’s custom gender options (currently over 50 to choose from)? Do they carry around a small booklet of definitions and characteristics so as to always appear relevant?
“…at the beginning, the Creator made them male and female” (Matthew 19:4)
Sexperts understand something about masculinity and femininity.
They promote God by exploring the created expressions of being made in His image: male and female. When sexperts cross paths with those who are younger, they forge the type of relationship that allows the learner to gaze into the mystery. They enter the eye of the storm together where motion stops, where knowing God is risky business, where spiritual life is transferred in gender flavors.
They hang out.
They rub off.